Quiz from Super Cutie

WHAT ARE/WERE YOU DOING...
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Now:
Chomping on bread and attempting to figure out if my computer has gone berzerk

2hours ago:
Had night class

6hours ago:
stayed home looking at interview notes

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LAST THING(s) I...
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Bought:
Pizza

Read:
notes and light textbook reading

Watched on TV:
Don't have one in my apartment.

Watched on VCD:
Hm don't have any Vcds

Watched on DVD:
Stephen Chow's "Kung Fu Hustle"

======== PREFER.. ========
Club/house party: probably club party

Cats/dogs:
actually I am afraid of pets but I am beginning to like both cats and dogs.

Pen/pencil: pen...because it truly is mightier than the sword.

Gloves/mittens: Gloves

Food/candy: Food

Cassette/CD: CD

Coke/Pepsi: coke

Matches/lighter: I don't have one. I do not smoke.

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WHO DO YOU WANT TO...
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Kill: nobody.
Kiss: hm...I never kissed anyone before. I wouldn't know.

=========== FAVORITE... ===========
Color: none.

Shoes: Bata

Site: Blogger log.

Song: Joey Yung--"Lover #16"

Vegetable: "Bak Choi"

Fruit(s): Apples, Oranges, Peaches, Plums and Strawberries.

======= Last... =======
Last movie you saw: "Kung Fu Hustle"

Last phone number you called: Pearl (a.k.a.Super Cutie)'s rez.

Last song you heard: The Flash--Danny Elfman

Last thing you had drank: Mango Juice

Last thing you ate: Scilian Pizza and Doritos.

Last time you showered: 1 hour ago.

Last time you smiled: I don't know. But I try to smile when I can.

Last time you laughed: Hm Talking to People at CCCF and dining with them at Leung Yue

========= DO YOU... =========
sleep with a stuffed animal: Nope.

Believe there's life on other planet: Hm. yeah probably.

Read the newspaper: yep.

Consider yourself tolerant to others: hm. depends on the person.

Believe in astrology: Nope. But I know what sign I am.

Believe in magic: LOL yeah.

Wear hats: Only on a bad hair day

Have any tattoos: Temporary Dragon tattoo

Hate yourself: What type of question is that? No.

Like your handwriting: Okay.

Believe in witches: oh...yes...LOL but most people can call me a warlock...b/c I disappear when I want to (via walking) Muhahahaha! *sorry had to laugh at myself*

Believe in ghosts: Hm...yeah.

Trust others easily: I wish I knew the answer to that.

Take walks in the rain: If The person who wants me to talk to them happens to be in the rain, then, yeah.

Sing in the shower: Nope.


Signing off,

TKO

Small update on what happened while I was not writing.

Hello Everybody:

well, it's been a while since I wrote, I haven't really had time to update this blog as much as I want to...a quick run-down:

1. Missing Evie's Baptism
2. Group Project #1 and presentation
3. Grad form "intent to Graduate"
4. QUEST computer systems
5. Victor's B-day
6. Essay on Group project #1

NEXT: Videotape interviews, Essay on interview skills, Class paper and two finals

1. Missing Evie's Baptism:

Oh man, what can I say? I feel so bad it was like a pile of bricks just landed on me, Even though it was a while ago...it still feels that way) it was just one of those days where I thought I could wake up and end up falling asleep without realizing I overslept. I was happy and thought I'd make it that day only to figure out looking at the Bus schedule at CFC was just as confusing as looking at the Raptors win-loss record...I wish I could say sorry but sadly, having no long distance on my phone stops me short of doing that.

Evie, if you're reading this, a big sorry! (hope I can make it up to you somehow) I hope things are all right.

2. Group Project #1 and presentation:

One of the most mind numbing projects I have ever taken...and it's not because it was hard. As much as I remain upset at having to take the SocWk 221R Social Group Work course I couldn't say I didn't learn anything. Rather, I learn how NOT to operate in a group. This project made me re-assess how I conduct my work, it made me realize how dead serious I was when working on my projects. (Leading to my friends asking me why I am never on vacation) It's one of those projects where when you got a group of people working, me being the one guy who is 5th year has it's advantages.(or at least you would think so)

What follows is one of the most annoying things I have ever been asked by another student: "what is an essay?" to which my response is: "And you're a university student in what year??" I mean gee...I wonder if it is that hard to write a paper? I mean I know I've written a fair bit in my 5 years at university, but have I ever seen anyone give me a chart and a timeline before? and pass it off as "work"?? I guess you know the answer to that: "GIMME A HELL NO!" I mean the bones,the basic structure of what is a paper consists of Intro, Thesis, your main points,breakdown of your points and defense, a restatement of thesis and finally a conclusion. And I guess it's up to the prof to pick my poison: MLA format or APA format?

But no...wait, it seems I don't even get that: I get something a kin to a "agency" paper? One that is possibly in POINT FORM? my...I guess when somebody tells me to write them a paper in "good paper format" it almost means free rein! (yeah, right.) from what lackbuster monstrosity we get a "A-" is beyond me: I had my former T.A. and Professor look at the frankenstein and say: "Thomas I hope I taught you better than that."

Enough said huh? Not quite: it was a project where we have to pick a group (Task Group, Community Action group,etc...)I end up asking myself what I am doing in the course.

3. Grad form "intent to Graduate"

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! Oh my...it was funny how I am convocating in June and I still get people wondering if I was younger...I even get the "Are you new?" question. (With them staring point blank at my records you'd think they would actually see it...I am what you call "POST DEGREE") But while I am attempting to fulfill my goal of hitting the second degree of Bachelor of Social Work, I get somebody trying to get me to finish another undergrad...( Do I really look that young?!)...it seems I never really get anything working until I need it dead center...there is one good thing out of all this: My Sociology Professor/Academic Advisor knows EXACTLY what he is doing. I had my form and credits finished in less than a week! (Thanks Prof...I owe you one big time.)

4. QUEST computer systems

Hm...I thought it was good when the system was easier to access and people could literally change everything they need to suit their academic purposes...it seems even changing/updating e-mail addresses seem to be a pain in the neck. When you think Upgrade, you think: "Better" "Easy to figure out" and "Quick" especially when you have an entire campus accessing student services and trying to get the most mundane things done, you do not think anything becoming complex...but that's what they do...Good Job guys! (Thank God I am out of here soon...)

5. Victor's B-day

NOTE TO SELF: don't sing in Chinese unless you happen to know the song or characters well!

Hm...it really was a good party: Thanks Vic, I hope you like the gift. I managed to go for dinner and party up until 2am (I didn't know I had that in me) took two small shots and managed to stay in one piece...trying to sing Alex Fong's "Good Person Good Result" was bad: mainly b/c I had not practiced since Christmas... and don't remember the words in between assignments, midterms and projects.

aside from me making a joke out of myself (in front of girls) T__T...ah. It was fun.

6. Essay on Group project #1

This is an essay that at first had me seething with rage: but then I figured out what the professor really wanted: the question and options were simple, you can whine about how much you didn't like the project. OR you talk about what you learned about group dynamics and what did you learn?

Well, I basically decided to be as diplomatic as possible. I chose to talk about group dynamics, what did and did not work. Why I hated it and how it relates to the project. Yes, I talked about a few things such as me thinking (And actually saying) that one particular group member's claim of not knowing how to access e-mail as "absurd" (this comes from the simple fact that the entire project was practically done through e-mail)I chose not to spend too much time on my paper talking about what makes me angry. I talked about how serious I was when a task is put in front of me. (This later leads my Dad to tell me: "Son, you need a vacation" *in response to the fact that I am serious when I work*--and me jokingly telling him: "Dad that's why I am still single")

Sadly, sometimes it makes me wonder how true that is...

NEXT: Videotape interviews, Essay on interview skills, Class paper and two finals

A. Interview project: started--all I need now is a tape and a camera

B. Essay on Interview skills: Can't be done until I finish taping interview vignettes

C. Class paper and two finals: Class Paper--COMPLETED, Two finals: Need to study badly...but still have to finish Tape and essay projects first.

Signing Off,

TKO

Survey from Alex C.

From my friend Alex's blog, http://www.takatomon.blogspot.com/

Erase my x's and put an x next to the things you've done

( ) snuck out of the house
(x) gotten lost in your city
( ) saw a shooting star
(x) been to any other countries besides the united states
( ) had a serious surgery
( ) gone out in public in your pajamas
( ) kissed a stranger
( ) hugged a stranger
(x) been in a fist fight (probably...)
( ) been arrested
(x) done drugs (Sure! let's see Centrum, Ritalin, Cough Medicine, Tylenol, the good stuff =D)
(x) had alcohol
(x) laughed and had milk/coke come out of your nose
( ) pushed all the buttons on an elevator
( ) made out in an elevator
(x) swore at your parents (although i didn't mean it!)
(x) kicked a guy where it hurts
(x) been in love
( ) had a member of the opposite sex tell you they love you (I'm pretty sure she was drunk)
( ) told a member of the opposite sex that you loved them
( ) been close to love
(x) been to a casino
( ) been skydiving
( ) broken a bone
( ) skinny-dipped
(x) skipped school
( ) flashed someone
(x) saw a therapist (Yes. I do every week. Is there something wrong with that?)
( ) played spin the bottle
(x) gotten stitches
(x) drank a whole gallon of milk in one hour
( ) bitten someone
(x) been to Niagara Falls (who HASN'T?)
(x) gotten the chicken pox
( ) kissed a member of the opposite sex --> I've never kissed anyone.
( ) kissed a member of the same sex
( ) crashed into a friend's car
( ) been to Japan
(x) ridden in a taxi
(x) been dumped
( ) shoplifted
( ) been fired
(x) had feelings for someone who didn't have them back
( ) stole something from your job
( ) gone on a blind date
(x) lied to a friend--> if it's for the right reasons, yes!
( ) had a crush on a teacher
( ) celebrated mardi-gras in new orleans
(x) been to Europe
( ) slept with a co-worker
( ) been married
( ) dated a red head
( ) dated a blonde
( ) dated a brunette
( ) gotten divorced
( ) had children
(x) saw someone die
( ) been to Africa
( ) Driven over 400 miles in one day
(x) Been to Canada
( ) Been to Mexico
(x) Been on a plane
( ) Seen the Rocky Horror Picture Show
( ) Thrown up in a bar
( ) Purposely set a part of myself on fire
(x) Eaten Sushi
( ) Been snowboarding
( ) Met someone in person from the internet
( ) Been moshing at a rock show (that would be fun...)
( ) Been to a moto cross show
( ) lost a child
(x) gone to college/University--> and pretty soon I will be just plain "gone"
(x) graduated college/University here in Canada--> I finished as of last term.
( ) done hard drugs
( ) gotten electricuted (don't ask...)
(x) taken painkillers
(x) love someone or miss someone right now... (Yeah. My parents and brother)
(x) run at least 12 miles a day--> wait till you see me in the summer
( ) play(ed) an instrument
( ) have been on the computer for 16 hours straight without a break..
(x) stood up for a so-called "loser" kid in school-->he ended up being one of my good friends back then, but lost touch.
( ) at one time collected pokemon cards
( ) played with pollypocket
( ) had a gigapet
(x) seen yourself naked
( ) rolled down a hill in a barrell
( ) held up traffic for fun...(as a pedestrian)

Relationships, Love, and the God -Centered Relationship

Below is an old entry I had back on Feb 10th but never got back to finishing until now.


Hello Everybody:

Wow. I haven't written here in a while so I'd start off with this quote:

"Perfect love is rare indeed - for to be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist, the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain."

--Leo Buscaglia(1924 -1998)

I just went to The Cantonese Chinese Christian Fellowship tonight and the topic is: Relationships.I wish I was at this meeting at the beginning, but alas, I had night class.

Anyway in the spirit of upcoming Valentines Day the group split up into two (one side with all boys and the other all girls)and we were given scenarios from a book in chinese about basically arguements that married couples get into:

1. The husband forgets his wife's birthday, the wife gets upset and asks him why he forgot and the husband blames his forgetfulness on work... who is at fault?

2. A married couple gets into fights very often with the husband making fun of his wife and basically comparing her with other women and the wife accuses the husband of cheating because she says he must like looking at other women so much and don't care about her...who is at fault?

3. A married woman is always with her husband and when they fight it used to be only a war of words but recently he turns violent and says he loves her even though he is being a jackass...who is at fault?

In scenario#1 Some guys felt that the woman was just being too sensitive, but generally some of us clearly felt it was the guy's fault for forgetting.

My personal option is: I think it would be the guys fault and his excuse of blaming work is silly because it's like an old saying goes: "You remember your parents birthday because you respect your elders, you remember your own birthday cause you respect yourself" So why would it be any different for a man? regardless whether or not you work? You would remember a girlfriend's birthday or your wife's birthday just the same... so who cares if your work is hectic or you are busy? so the woman's too sensitive? How is that? is remembering just one day so much to ask?

In scenario#2: The guys felt there is no clear way to discern who is at fault since they are both equally responsible.

My personal option is: What is this? I don't even care who started it! The fight has a stupid premise, here's why: At what point did the husband feel it was all right to compare his OWN WIFE with other women? Why the hell would the husband do that? if this was real, I'd tell the husband to grow up: you married your wife for a reason. And it couldn't very well be, "well, if the shoe fits"

Remember when you love somebody and as far as being married to them is concerned, I feel the husband and wife both made a commitment: that means you are responsible for each other! and as for the wife saying the husband is cheating on her and so fouth: that is, annoying. And unless it was real? don't do that...things just get worse that way.

One more thing about the husband: If I were in his shoes I'd seriously think I need counselling, because I mean the woman's your wife, why on earth is it a power trip thing? what does it serve to say other women are better? I mean people get married because they want to spend their lives together right? When you look into her eyes she should mean the world to you. You should at least have remorse for bringing that into an arguement right? What type of man would feel good doing that?

In scenario#3: We all felt the guy is at fault. The scenario in the book had answers and it said the husband does this out of insecurity, and the woman is at fault for depending on the husband too much. Some of us said that maybe the guy needs a second chance to work things out.

My personal option is: If I were a friend,I'd tell the woman to leave the husband and go someplace safe, call the police... because by God, a man, a real man, should NEVER,EVER hit a woman! you know, I don't care if you're stressed, tired, or sugar level's low, a guy like that is worse than an animal in my book! and the stereotypical answer in the book had all of us ask: is this an old book? And apparently this was within 2000 so it wasn't some old book. But it had me wondering if the author was from the 1950s or something...because in any scenario, (even though this is not real) a woman in my mind is never at fault in a abusive relationship, they are victims! a second chance? what? so does that mean don't act until it's too late? I don't think so! If you hurt the one you love, it ain't love at all!

But sadly, if I were a social worker: I cannot do any of that as a professional, my code of ethics says that I have to accept individuals as they are, to value their self-worth,it also says that I have to accept them, but not necesarily condone their actions. If the woman chooses to stay with the abuser, I have to respect their right to self determination. Which leads me to wonder: at what point can we act?

Anyway, what is a God-Centered relationship anyway? How do we know if the "one" we are supposed to be with is what "God intended"? What does that mean? How would anyone know? I don't think love can be arranged, and it's not somehow pre-determined...I mean with so many people divorcing these days who knows anymore? (I am not saying there isn't such a thing as love, quite the opposite, I am just saying that I think not even God could possibly be able to "steer" people together)

Signing off,
TKO